Thursday, January 20, 2011

Couldn't Have Said It Better Myself...

A fellow BLM posted this on her blog and I had to steal it. This quote is such a good reminder for those that want to know how we're feeling as Baby Loss Momma's...

"When you lose a child, your life doesn't just change. You're shattered on the inside, blown to bits, your heart broken. It takes a long time to come back together again. I'm not looking for your pity. It's better for me to talk than to keep everything all inside. I don't want you to think I'm selfish, but can't you see how much I'm hurting? Sometimes I take out my baby's things...smell them, caress them, hug and kiss them and rock them until the tears stop falling. Please don't turn a blind eye to me. If you think it’s too painful for you, multiply that by infinity and you might have a vague idea of how much pain I am in. I did not ask for this to happen. I do ask for your love and support. If you can't think of anything to say, then just listen to me. Let me borrow your shoulder. Surely you are stronger than I am, and you can help me by simply being there."
---Unknown Author


  1. That is perfect. Exactly exactly how it is. Thank you for sharing it

  2. Thanks for posting this. I'm going to share this on my blog too. I think it echoes every BLM's thoughts.

  3. This is beautiful.

    I also wanted to say Hi, from one Olivia mama to another :)

    (I saw the link to your blog on the sidebar of Letters to Claire)

  4. I agree...That is exactly what we wish all of our friends and family would understand. Thank goodness we have been blessed with some who truly open themselves up to us and our babies! Sending you big supportive hugs!